Self-trust can feel like a scary thing. So often trust in ourselves has been damaged by messages from society or others telling us that we need to be different than we are. Messages that we should be thinner or more productive. That we should be making more money or spending more time doing things for others. We have been told over and over again that we need to live according to outside rules or influences and, eventually we start to believe it. We begin living out of alignment and stuck in a cycle of self-sabotage. We try to force ourselves to live according to the rules, but then rebel and end up burning the whole thing down when it starts to feel like too much. This rebellion seems to prove the point and the idea of trusting ourselves starts to feel dangerous. It feels like if we don’t force ourselves to live according to external rules that we will only end up doing things that hurt us. Our self trust is broken and we begin to lose connection to our inner cues. We are living by rules that don’t resonate with us but we don’t know what else to do. We have lost our inner power and feel out of control.

Our thoughts make up a big part of our life. We spend a great deal of time in our own heads. Some of our thoughts are helpful. They allow us to solve problems, make plans and organize our lives. We use our minds to learn about and interact with the world. They help keep us alive. But they can also hurt us. Our thoughts may be self-critical or unnecessarily negative. They can be overwhelming and harsh. They can fixate on the past or future, stealing our peace and connection to the present moment. Negative thoughts can damage our relationships and our self-worth. They can lead to anxiety and depression. They can cause self-sabotaging or harmful behaviors. They can keep us stuck. Our minds are wonderful servants, but terrible masters.